Post 53: Le Mal de Mere


I daydreamed about buying a sailboat before I’d ever stepped foot on a monohull. There was just something in my bones that told me that my nomadic tour leader lifestyle, which had me crisscrossing the country and living out of the back of a van, would translate well to living small on the water. In fact, it was more than a dream, it was the goal, the next step, what I was going to do with my life once I finally traded in my life on the road.

Then, while JD and I were on a whale watching tour way up in Nova Scotia, off the coast of Cape Breton Island, I watched my sailing dreams get hurled over the side of the boat along with my breakfast.

What the f*ck?


JD – Not a Puker

Up until that time, I had no idea that I was prone to le mal de mere. Maybe it was a fluke? I wasn’t going to let a little vomit get in the way of my dreams. I figured, I’d either get my sea legs or I’d lose a little weight. It was time to put on my big girl PFD and go for it.

Well, a fluke it was not. Now that we have our own sailboat, I’ve had quite a bit of time to experiment with this notion. Inside the Bay, no problemo. Leaving the Golden Gate, I’m at a 50% puke rate, especially if I step foot belowdecks. So, I’ve been searching for a remedy. Lord Horatio Nelson is rumored to have said, “The best cure for seasickness is to sit under a tree.” Well, that just doesn’t quite cut it for me.


Motorsailing back to the Gate – Jib out, motor on.

I have to admit that I don’t like taking any kind of seasickness medication. It can turn me into a zombie that sleeps for 14 hours, especially if I add any alcohol to the mix. And gosh darn it, I like a celebratory drink at the end of a long day of sailing. So, I have been reluctant to turn to pills… until last weekend. I took the smallest amount of Meclizine I possibly could (6.25 mg) early in the morning before we headed out underneath the Golden Gate Bridge. Long story short, we found ourselves battling an ebb tide with wind waves as we headed back toward home. We were rocking and rolling. With the wind at our back but the tide pushing against us, it was a wild ride at 1.5 kts speed over ground. And where was I?  Down below, hanging with Ruby, eating smoked oysters and sauerkraut.


That’s a win in my book.

Post 49: Gaining Independence


Per usual, I’ve been a slacker on the blog front.  So, I’m going to combine a couple of boat adventures.

Father’s Day- Sunday, June 21st

Rather than spending money on stuff (aka gifts) this Father’s Day, we decided to spend time on a new experience.

Our trusty crew Brad Johnson joined us once again for a big first– sailing in the Pacific Ocean.  It’s quite fitting as Brad was also around for our first adventure aboard Gone Tomorrow. Although we felt slightly guilty stealing Brad away from his family on Dad’s Day, we couldn’t have been happier to have him along.

Out with the Tide, Motoring Under the Bridge

Don’t get me wrong, I love learning to sail in the San Francisco Bay but seeing the same loop over and over again can get a bit monotonous. We made the decision to get up early to leave with the tide; we motored the heck out of our boat, heading for the Golden Gate Bridge. This way we could spend more time beyond rather than taking hours sailing just to get to this iconic landmark.

Brad Enjoying the Adventure

We motored out all the way to the last channel marker before hoisting our sails.  With 3 foot swells at 15 seconds apart and light winds, we put out our full mainsail removing our double reef.

It. Was. Glorious.

Wing on Wing

Sunshine on our faces, the breeze in our hair, we all fell in love with sailing just a little bit more this past Father’s Day.  We sailed all the way back in under the bridge, before having our asses handed to us in a “welcome home” gesture from the Bay.  Lesson learned, we need to reef prior to heading under the Bridge unless we want to see our toe rail under the water. I mean, what would a day on the Bay be without a teachable moment from Mother Nature? All in all, it was a successful, enjoyable, exciting new adventure; we can’t wait to head back out.  Half Moon Bay is calling our name.

Sailing Back into the Bay
Sailing Back into the Bay

Independence Day- Friday, July 3rd through Sunday, July 5th

Let’s Celebrate

Our buddy Graeme just finished sailing his Cal 25 from Baja to Panama and flew back to the Bay Area on July 3rd.  We figured this was a perfect excuse to gather friends to celebrate his return as well as our country’s independence. We rallied the troops from Pacifica to Reno in order to join our celebratory mission.

It was a fun filled weekend including time playing at the beach, dragging anchor, rowing folks from the boat to shore and back on Chloride, watching fireworks mostly covered by fog, drinking a bit of Wild Turkey, eating ribs, eating chicken, eating fresh guacamole, eating, eating, eating…

We’re on a Boat
The Men of the Galley

It was great to learn that S/V Gone Tomorrow can comfortably sleep 7 as long as those 7 folks don’t mind close quarters, don’t care about showers and really enjoy each other’s company.

The Independent Crew

A special thanks to Graeme for inspiring the weekend as well as to Raine, Devon, Steve, Anne, Sam, Ashley and Greg for joining in the fun. Also, I feel the need to confess a failed Scurvy Cure attempt of the Oh Say Can You Sea. Great name, gross drink. Luckily all escaped without the Scurvy.

Post 43: Ditto


I love the way JD writes; he depicted our Petaluma adventure so well.  All I need to say for my two cents is “ditto.”

Rather than writing more words, I am adding a quick video recap and some pictures to our Petaluma story.  You know what they say, a picture is worth a thousand words.  I used Magisto on my iPhone to do all of my video editing.  It’s pretty rad; you just pick ten pics, ten videos, choose a theme, add some music, and voila…


And now for the photos…

Heading Out of the Emeryville Channel in the Early Morning
Heading Towards the Berkeley Pier– Our Meeting Place
S/V Shawnigan & S/V Sierra– Right on Time!
Enjoying the View of the Petaluma River
The 101 Bridge in South Petaluma
Draw Bridge in the Distance
Our friend’s office overlooks the drawbridge. Thanks for the amazing welcome and the picture, Ashley!
Entering the Petaluma Turning Basin
Sweet Success and a Nice Sunset to Boot.
Exploring Petaluma by Bike.
JD & Ruby Get Down at the Car Show
And We’re Off! Petaluma, Thanks for a Great Time!
Sailing in San Pablo Bay with S/V Shawnigan & S/V Sierra.
Heading Our Separate Ways– Ruby “Watches” as Our Buddies Head in a Different Direction.

Post 20: Giddy Up


I think everyone has a certain type of personality that they desire to have and strive to present to the outside world. For me, I like to think that I enjoy change and am a go with the flow type of gal. Buy sailboat and take on another monthly payment? No problem. Move your 14 month old infant onto a boat full-time as she is learning to walk? Sure, let’s go for it! Leave a job with a company you have been with since 2005 prior to finding another place of employment? Why not, it’s just another adventure.

For those of you that don’t follow the Chinese Zodiac (like me typically), this is the Year of the Wooden Horse. JD and I discovered this fact when we were back home visiting family in Kentucky over the holidays. Low and behold Ruby’s grandparents built her a wooden rocking horse by hand. How cool is it that in the Year of the Wooden Horse not only would we be moving onto our new “wooden wind horse” but Ruby would also receive a literal wooden horse gift to start the new year? Coincidence, maybe. Awesome, absolutely.

Perfect Gift from Grandma & Grandpa

So, what should be expected in the Year of the Wooden Horse? According to some random Internet post, this is what I found:

“The Year of the Wooden Horse will truly be high-spirited, active and lively for all. It will be a year filled with adventure and movement, delightfully delving into new ways and practices. Note that the pace can turn out to be extremely hectic.

This is what the horse has to say: Be brave, be bold, be shocking.”

January 31, 2014 was a big day for our little family. Not only was it my final day at work for a company that had been my family since 2005, it was also the day we officially found out that we had been approved for live aboard status at our marina. Two huge life changes in one day! While we were out for a celebratory dinner at Terrapin Crossroads, the table behind us gave a surprising yet incredibly fitting toast, “Happy Chinese New Year!” Both JD and I dissolved into laughter. As I stated, I don’t keep up with the Chinese Zodiac and had no idea that January 31st of all days was kicking off the new year. The Year of the Wooden Horse couldn’t have come galloping into our lives any faster with not one, but two huge life changes on day one of the new year.

So, here I am, charging forward into 2014. Internally, I’m thinking “Holy sh*t! How is all of this going to work out!?” All the while, I’m trying to be calm, stay in the moment and enjoy the changes that are taking place in my life. I don’t just want to only appear to enjoy change, I truly want to be that go with the flow kinda gal. My mantra for this year– Be brave. Be bold. Be shocking.

Post 19: Man in the Water



This post has some stuff in it you may not really give a crap about.  If you weren’t with me, aren’t related to me or don’t really care about San Francisco Bay history at all and really just want to know about the “Man in the Water” just skip down to the last few paragraphs.  It happened at the end of the night and this post shall not feature any trickery of the flashback variety like you might find in an Orson Welles flick.

I had a most glorious day sailing with my family and friends today.  Jen and I woke up to the sun shining through our aft cabin port-hole.  The boat was quiet; Ruby decided Sunday would be a good day to sleep in.  We lazed about for a few minutes then got up to transform our house back into a sailboat.  Fortunately I have a wife who insists we keep the boat, almost, ready to sail at all times.  It doesn’t take much beyond the normal system checks, mental notes to self and visualization of what the day should look like.  Brad, Mark, Melissa and Trevor showed up one after another and we got some coffee and sandwiches from Andy’s Market.  Yum yum good, that place!

After everyone was aboard I asked them to come below so we could talk about the day.  Now, I’ve had absolutely no problem directing people over the years as a white water rafting guide, a horse wrangler and a tour guide but it’s always a little different with friends.  But alas, sailing is foreign to a lot of people and all of these guys know just how new to it I am.  I figured it might make everyone feel a little better if they thought I had some kind of a plan. 🙂  What a great group of friends; no weirdness, just attention to the details about life jackets, kill switches, fire extinguishers, sail plan, map briefing and head instructions, then of course the genuine laughter on cue.  It’s an interesting thing, a safety briefing.  I’ve only really done commercial sailing/boating trips before so I don’t really know what a lot of private boaters might say to people who come aboard.  Do they forego this speech and just let the chips fall where they may?  Heck if I know.  What can I say; maybe I just like my friends too much.  If you come on my boat and don’t get a safety briefing I guess you’ll know where you stand.

Today’s lesson lied in our first raising of the mainsail.  After we got out of the channel into the deep water we put up the jib first, killed the engine and set off northeast toward East Brother Island and Pt San Pablo.  This point marks the spot where San Pablo Bay and San Francisco Bay meet.  The island holds a historic lighthouse keeper’s home which housed many families over the years.  Jen and I have visited a few lighthouses along the California coast and it is so intriguing to try to envision what life must have been like so many years ago in this rugged, lonely land.  The light was first lit almost 140 years ago and two gentlemen, at separate times, spent over 20 years each, manning this lighthouse for the safety of mariners here in the bay.  Nuts.  The home was slated for demolition after the government automated the lighthouse but was saved due to local pressure and placed on the National Registry of Historic Places in 1971.  Now, the house has been converted to serve as the East Brother Light Station Victorian Bed and Breakfast.  I hear that it’s fairly costly but a very nice escape, unless you don’t like foghorns.  We can hear it all the way across the bay when we’re sitting out on our deck in the evening.  To me, the sound of a foghorn is absolutely full of nostalgia and romance.  Maybe not right next to my bed, but I’d probably be able to get used to it.

Anyway, we hoisted the Jib, tacked twice to get our systems down, then raised the main.  Having all these guys aboard, all at a similar level of ability, was great.  We all just figured things out.  The wind was really slow, everyone did their part and we took our time to study the lines and get to know how the system was put together.  Time came to tack and we did.  Then again.  The day just went by, the sun kept shining and we were fortunate enough to have a visit from a curious sea lion and a couple of porpoises.

Jib & Mainsail!
Jib & Mainsail!

Happy Days

Little Ruby was an angel all day as well.  She napped until we got out of the channel and then joined us in the cockpit for much of the afternoon.  She teetered and tottered back and forth from one to the next of us and rarely made a peep beyond the attempts at Ma Ma, Da Da and Apple.  She really seems to be fine wearing her nifty life vest from West Marine.  She’s comfortable in it and it’s already served to protect her.  She rolled backward on the sole of the cockpit today and the head support pillow made for a cushy landing.

So the whole day was a great success.  We made it back into the marina at just about the right time as the tide was ebbing and we just glided right into our slip without incident and said our goodbyes.  Jen and Ruby and I tidied up a few things around the boat, went for a nice walk/wagon ride along the breakwater, gave Ruby a bath and Skyped my Mom & Dad so they could see her playing in the baby bathtub.  I dried Ruby off and handed her over to Jen to put her pj’s on and I decided to walk the recycling and trash up to the office to throw away.

Nice Ending

As I was walking back from the office, enjoying the stars and the calm evening I noticed a boat coming into D dock.  It was dark by now and it really made me think a lot about what it might be like when we are coming in at dark.  I noticed a little bit of commotion and heard some loud voices but thought it was just some sloppy docking or maybe a few drunk people.  But then a man and his dog were moving much faster than I thought would be normal and the voices were raised even more.  Something was up but I didn’t know what.  The guy and his dog ran up the ramp and out the gate toward me and I said, “Hey man, what’s going on? You ok?”  He ran past me and said, “You live here? Come on! Come on!”  I followed him and shouted for him to tell me what was up and he said, “There’s a man in the water down on C!”  I had been carrying our little trash bin with me and I dropped it and took off.  I passed the guy like he was standing still and sprinted toward C, put my key card up to the gate, worrying that it wouldn’t work and thinking about how I could get around the gate if it didn’t.  It worked.  I hauled ass down that dock and toward a couple of people standing near the end and yelled for them to tell me where he was.  They just pointed down to the water and seemed kind of calm.  I immediately thought, %*&! man, is this a body or what.  Thank goodness it wasn’t.  One of the people at the end of the dock was an older woman and the other was a middle-aged guy that had been struggling to get this really big guy out of the water.  I looked down into the darkness and saw a guy just holding onto the dock.  Me and the other guy reached down to pull him up.  He was calm but he was heavy.  I’ve been trained to pull people up into rafts from the water so I knew how to go about it but it still took quite a bit of maneuvering to pull this guy up to the point where he could shimmy onto his belly and up over the edge.

Evidently, he stepped off the side of the dock, like others we’d heard of before and couldn’t pull himself up.  I think I probably could but it would not be easy.  I sure as hell wouldn’t venture to try it here in these waters like I might if I was somewhere like, say, maybe the Caribbean.  We’ve heard of people texting and just walking right off the dock.  Jen and I have talked about the best plan should one of us fall in.  And we’ve talked about what would potentially happen if that one of us happens to be holding little Ruby.  We would shed any bag or whatever we might be holding, (besides Ruby, obviously) turn onto our back, Ruby up near our chest and we would kick backward toward the back side of whatever boats we were near and go to the nearest boat with a swimdeck or ladder off the back of it, push Ruby up on there, then climb up.  If it is cold, we would immediately head back to our boat, crank the heater, shed our wet clothes and get ourselves into the warm shower.

So Mr. Big Fella was fine.  Luckily it wasn’t that chilly out and he had a warm car and a warm house to head back to.  We all shook hands, patted backs, laughed a bit and then I continued my walk home.  Never a dull moment.  Always a lesson to learn.

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